I find it really hard to connect as a family during the school term when it feels like I only see the kids and my husband in passing. Every time we talk seems to be so clinical, about something we need to do around the house or a bill that needs to be paid. Our family seems to slow down on holidays and we actually spend time communicating each other. It's important to have the big chats with the kids at that time, about important values and milestones but also have some small conversations about their favourite TV shows and the games they play at school. It's all about knowing your kid and how they think.